Raising Kids and Teens

10 Responses to “I need some good parenting tips,PLEASE?”

1. Lavrenti Beria Says:
   July 23rd, 2009 at 1:21 pm

   Brandon

   [I feel like I have no time to myself anymore.]

   Welcome to the Parent Hood!

2. kelly Says:
   July 25th, 2009 at 4:49 am

   Cameron

   Children can feel when their parents are going through something difficult and it makes them upset too, does she realize her daddy isn’t around as much, she is probably going through a hard time without him and having everything changed. You need to just deal with sleeping with her and letting her know you aren’t going to disappear like daddy. Spend more time playing with her and talking, it doesn’t matter how old she is, every child needs security and stability and reassurance in their lives.

3. stephieL Says:
   July 28th, 2009 at 7:30 am

   Jabari

   urgh i know how your feelin my daughter wakes up at night and i live with my parents too but she has never been placed in bed with me so she doesnt try to come in bed with me, and also how old is your daughter? that makes a big difference because if shes under 1 or so then maybe you could still try giving her a bottle, or if shes 2 or so then maybe try putting on a relaxing movie like winnie the pooh, its mellow enough that i wont keep her up, startle her etc.. your main problem is always putting her in bed with you, and now its routine, her body alam\rm is sayin wake up and go in mommys bed as a routine and she sees nothing wrong with that so now you have to give her someting else(in her own bed) to wake up and look foward too instead. These methods worked for me but im not an expert just a mom. maybe talk to her doctor and they can also help, eventually she will work it out with your help and sleep thru the night. oh yeah if shes having naps in the afternoon then maybe shes just not tired enough to sleep thru the night, try takin her nap away and see how she does also……..

4. amber 18 Says:
   July 31st, 2009 at 5:53 am

   Adrian

   My husband and I are living with my parents right now too because we’re building a house, so I know how stressful this can be.

   A couple of thoughts for you… if she is old enough, she might want to sleep with you because she misses her dad, and doesn’t understand what is going on. Of if she is much younger, then it is just a habit and you’re going to have to break it. Let your parents know that they’re might be a couple of loud nights, but if you commit to changing the habit, it won’t take that long to get past it.

   Don’t let her come into your room, she needs to stay in her room. When she wakes up, let her cry for a little while (15 mins max) then if she doesn’t stop, go in and comfort her by singing or patting her back, but don’t pick her up, and don’t let her get out of bed. Lay her back down and explain why. Then after a short time, leave the room, and if she wakes up, let her cry again. The first night is the worst, but it is the most important… if you keep going in and in more than once, she’ll learn that her cries will get your attention. You have to help her to learn, that you will come check on her once, but then you’re going back to bed and so should she.

   Seriously, it takes a couple of nights, maybe a week… but if you’re strong it will help and you’ll get through it. The other option is to just let her sleep with you until she is old enough that you can have a conversation with her. Like I said, she might need extra attention right now, and as long as you’re both sleeping ok together, maybe you should just let it go.

5. insay Says:
   July 31st, 2009 at 10:58 pm

   Jaime

   Ya, i guess you have to go to parenting hood. they can help you a lot.

6. Mommy Says:
   August 3rd, 2009 at 11:49 pm

   Leonel

   Has this always happened? How old is she? If your showing any signs of being hurt or worried, shes probably picking up on them and shes scared. Have you tried sleeping in her bed with her for a night or two? That might help I had to do that with my youngest daughter. Dont let her eat before bed, that can make them wake up. Just give it some time and I’m sure it will pass.

7. malwilhist Says:
   August 6th, 2009 at 2:34 am

   Ernest

   If she screams at all hours of the night, it’ll only be for a couple of nights. Put her back in her bed, and start her there, too. I’d recommend starting on a Friday night. That way everyone can sleep in.

8. thisxlifexisntxrealx2006 Says:
   August 8th, 2009 at 10:36 pm

   Darian

   If she is young enough to not go to school yet, do this any day, if she goes to school every day, do this when she will not have school the next day:

   It will take some testing, but try in the beginning three hours before bed. So if her bedtime is at, say… eight, then do it at five. Give her a few drinks of something caffeinated and wait until she gets tired. She will come off the caffeine and be really tired, and then you can take her to her bed and lay with her until she falls asleep, but make sure you’re on the outside edge of the bed so you can easily get off without too much ruckus. She still possibly may wake up in the middle of the night, go ahead and take her back to her bed and say you will lay with her and then wait until she falls asleep again and go back to your bed, but it is possible the caffeine may knock her out.

   -If three hours doesn’t cut it-

   If she gets tired earlier than bedtime, plan to give her the drink in just enough time for her to go to bed. So, lets say if you give her the drink at five and shes tired by seven, go ahead and let her sleep, but tomorrow, give her the drink at 6 instead of five.

   If she isn’t tired by bedtime, let her stay up until she is, and time it according to what time she got tired

   if you don’t want to do that, you may just have to deal with it until shes old enoug hto sleep by herself

9. mgnavadomskis Says:
   August 11th, 2009 at 9:13 pm

   Marques

   If it’s important to you that she sleep in her own bed (and, if you don’t care & she doesn’t care, then there’s no problem with her sharing, either), but, if you do want her on her own, then you need to teach her how to do it, just like you’d teach her how to do anything else in her life.

   As with any lesson, it’s best to first help her understand how this will benefit her, or how it’s polite/safe to do it the way that you would like it done. Then, with your parental knowledge of how she learns best, and letting her be involved in coming up with the plan, work with her to reach the goal of sleeping on her own all night.

   Does she need a nightlight? A story? A ritual? A bedtime snack? An earlier bedtime? A later one? Exercise before bed? A bath before bed? A special blanket, pillow, sweater that belongs to you? How about something that belongs to daddy?

   Talk to her, involve her in the solution & help her to learn.

10. jon jon's girl Says:
    August 12th, 2009 at 10:23 pm

    Eugene

    let her cry and throw a fit a little. early though, like at 8pm before your parents go to bed. She will get used to you not being there every minute and things will start getting better. sounds harsh but it works

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