Parenting tips for toddlers?
Filed in Raising Kids and Teens on Aug.28, 2009
rpitlock2000 asked:
I need help as my wife and I are struggling in our marriage and now our struggling in the way to discipline our 18 month old. My wife has consulted with Dr. Dobson’s guide on discipline and with family and decided it is ok to start discipline at 18 months; I am ok with that part however I am not ok with disciplining him with a time out as a result of him biting and hitting her as a direct way of expressing his emotions towards her. Am I right with that opinion or not and the reason for asking is he does not bite or hit anyone else with a “blatant attempt” as my wife calls it?
Aron
I need help as my wife and I are struggling in our marriage and now our struggling in the way to discipline our 18 month old. My wife has consulted with Dr. Dobson’s guide on discipline and with family and decided it is ok to start discipline at 18 months; I am ok with that part however I am not ok with disciplining him with a time out as a result of him biting and hitting her as a direct way of expressing his emotions towards her. Am I right with that opinion or not and the reason for asking is he does not bite or hit anyone else with a “blatant attempt” as my wife calls it?
Aron
August 28th, 2009 at 11:17 pm
Asher
Have your wife grab his arms if he tries to hit and say very clearly and loudly that u are not messing around and if that doesnt work just spank him and dont think u are abusive it is the right way to raise a child so they dont do it any more
August 29th, 2009 at 3:57 am
Harley
Oh time out is def called for. When my first son was just getting his teeth in he bit me and I did’t put him in timeout, I bit him right back and I did it hard. Sure he cried but he never bit me or anyone else again! He can not get away with that behavior no matter how many people he’s doing it to.
August 29th, 2009 at 2:49 pm
Nathanial
Well your son should not hit or bite, he does so because he’s learned that somwhere… my daughter since she started daycare has started hiting and when she hits and we tell her to stop and she continues she goes on a time out-usually in her crib which she hates-she’s now 21 mos.
Look your son should not bite or hit his mom and that’s never an uncceptable behaviour whether or not you two get along. Maybe he hits her with a “blatant attempt” because of her reaction ? Kids are big on that…they see the they got sb’s attention so they keep on doing it… but when they see there’re negatie consequences they stop.
My daughter’s behaviour has changed for the better since we started this time-out thing; because she knows if she misbheaves she goes in her crib. And we tell her.. Gabby do you wanna go in your crib??! And she says No! so then we tell her well you need to sit down, or stop hitting, etc
And it works!
Good Luck!
August 29th, 2009 at 11:35 pm
Nicolas
You’ve only started disciplining him at 18 months? Have you just let him have the run of the universe up to this point? Children understand “no” said in a stern voice much sooner than you think.
A child should never be allowed to express aggression in any form against an adult, especially his parent. When he does this (or any other behavior that is abusive toward a person or a thing), you need to put him in his crib immediately. There should be no toys in there and you need to shut the door and ignore his cries (the “punishment” here is isolation from those he loves, much like hell is isolation from God). A tap on the hand or the behind is often effective when a child is being defiant or about to engage in dangerous behavior.
Discipline starts the day a child is born.