What are some tips to get a 13 y.o. boy more interested in schoolwork?
Filed in Raising Kids and Teens on Aug.15, 2009
Bella asked:
I’ve tried making it fun, tried helping him, tried homework club at school but his interest is very low, resulting in poor grades. I don’t understand, I thought kids loved to learn? I did when I was in school and I can’t sympathize with someone not wanting to learn. Parents, any tips?
Cortez
I’ve tried making it fun, tried helping him, tried homework club at school but his interest is very low, resulting in poor grades. I don’t understand, I thought kids loved to learn? I did when I was in school and I can’t sympathize with someone not wanting to learn. Parents, any tips?
Cortez
August 16th, 2009 at 3:18 am
Leland
rewards and punishment. school is a job for kids and when you do well at your job you can get rewarded right? and when you do bad you get reprimanded right?
August 18th, 2009 at 10:23 pm
Cole
You thought that kids love to learn? Aren’t you projecting your own feeling about learning onto your son? Some kids just like to play, fool around. That is unfortunate but that’s the way things are.
How can you get your son interested in learning. I have used the contrarian approach. Let him know that you do not care and suggest that he will fail and that you do not care.
August 20th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
Ernest
rewards well ask him where he wants to go so often and then tell him that if he dose his homework and school work then UL take him somewhere exiting .
August 22nd, 2009 at 1:29 pm
Demarion
i also have the same problem i have a 13 year old son and a 12 year old son. theyre both into the same things but the 12 year old doesnt seem to want to learn? and he never has done since he started highschool so we had a really long talk about if hes being bullied but he said no he said that he just isnt very interested but he knows how important school is. they both go to the same school and are in the same classes but my younger one doesnt enjoy it just because he simply isnt interested so, i decided to shorten his hours (not saying you should drop him from school) and started to teach him from home and he liked it alot more so i thought maybe its the atmosphere of school so after a couple of months i let him back for full time and when he got home we would go over what he done and i would award him by letting him go on the computer an hour longer or staying up and having mates to sleep more often. and now he is pretty much an A+ student like my 13 year old. so maybe extra teaching but tell him he will achieve rewards like staying up later etc. :]
goodluck x
August 23rd, 2009 at 5:45 pm
Jayce
Reward and Punishment works. When he studys and starts to get better grades, reward him. Don’t give money for grades though. Maybe set up monthly or otherwise rewards, such as letting him stay out later than usual, letting him get a new video game (only to be played after studying of course). If he isn’t interested in trying at all, then clear out all the distractions in his room (T.V., video games, cell phone, phone, magazines, etc…) and then he will get so bored that he might study just for something to do. If he still doesn’t do it then tell him he will be a loser, working at mcdonalds for the rest of his life and that he is grounded till he’s 18, that the only thing you will provide him with is food and shelter, but that he has to study to buy more clothes. Also tell him that when he turns 18 and is a huge loser for not studying that you will kick him out to the street, where he will learn to be a man, and stop acting like a whiny brat…….lol. hope this helps. Of course, sometimes kids don’t learn to love learning (or value it) until they get a little older.
August 25th, 2009 at 4:54 pm
Will
im 13, punishment just pisses us off, rewards are distracting. for me homwork is the biggest problem because i want to do other things during homework time. but if my parents would let me wait till night to do my homework i would probably do much better because i will have had time to do all of the things i want to do that afternoon.
you can’t make us interested in school work its not interesting
August 27th, 2009 at 6:22 pm
Andrew
Compare it with your job. If mom didn’t work well she wouldn’t have any money to buy what you have, etc. Reward him when he does well on a test or does his homework. Punish when doesn’t do those things.
xoxo
sam
August 28th, 2009 at 5:57 am
Damarion
honestly school work is never going to be fun.
just explain to him that it’s something everyone has to go through in his life and it doesn’t take long. Give him some kind of prize if he gets all A’s and B’s or something or take away things that distract him if you have to.